Benjamin, Month 2

This month has been a crazy busy one with Daddy's birthday and all the Christmas festivities.  Benjamin was a champ and went with the flow as we drove all over the place to visit family.

Developmental Milestones this Month: Benjamin (like Andrew) fits into the textbook category for his development.  He can do the following (all age-appropriate according to What to Expect the First Year): smile in response to your smile, startles at a bell/clapping sound, lifts his head 90 degrees and raises his chest when he's on this stomach, rolls over from his stomach to his back, holds his head (relatively) steady when sitting upright, grasps rattle/toy held to his hand, pays attention to small objects in front of him and tracks them as I move them.  The only thing that he's not doing yet is vocalizing, he's a quiet boy.  He squawks at us when he wants something or is bored.

Things Benjamin likes: Mommy is his favorite person, but Daddy gets the most smiles!  He loves his swing.  He has spent so much time being held by family and friends, that he hasn't spent a lot of time exploring our home.  He loved the Christmas tree lights. He likes to be held tightly, likes his pacifier

Things Benjamin doesn't like: He's the easiest ever... he is pretty much chill.  He doesn't like being hungry, when Andrew moves him all over the place

Sleeping: Benjamin likes to sleep at night.  He started having a longer stretch by week three and now he's up to 7-8 hours (9 pm to 5 am, with a dream feed about 10:30 pm). He wakes up and eats sometime between 4:30-6 every morning and if you're super quiet and fast in getting everything ready, he'll go back to sleep from the bottle to about 7 am.  It's nice.  Napping during the day is consistent, but not long.  I need to swaddle and put him down quicker (actual follow the Baby Whisperer rules), but I've enjoyed holding and snuggling him.

Eating:  Ben eats 4 oz every 3 hours with an extra feeding at night and dream feed at 10:30.
We are still holding on to breastfeeding although it hasn't gotten any easier.  Originally the goal was 6 weeks, but we were going strong, so then it was 8 weeks, then 2 months.  I know that the end is very near and I want to end of a happy note instead of with rejection.

Diapers: Still in size 1--I have no idea how many we've used (unlike with Andrew... because first time and second time mom is so different)

Clothing: Ben is still in newborn clothes, except sleepers where he is in 0-3 months because of his length.  He's a peanut; doctor's appointment on Thursday to get the actual measurements.

Benjamin, Month 1

Milestones this Month: What a month to be born!  Ben started his life with so much excitement; Thanksgiving, celebrating Great Grandpa Ed's 90th Birthday, prep for Christmas, and so many visitors.  He's a very loved baby

Things he appears to really like: pacifiers, bath time, necks (like having his face snuggled up into it), being held tight, patted on his bottom (pretty hard at that), his swing

Things he appears not to like: being hungry, cold wipes, being bothered by brother when he's almost asleep

Sleeping: Ben has been a pretty consistent sleeper since the first week home from the hospital.  We had out first 5 hour stretch at night as a two week old (then we were instructed to wake him every 2 hours to eat so he could gain wait, we did that for a very long week) and it's pretty consistent every night.  His typical night sleep a 5-hour stretch, eat, and then sleep a 3 hour stretch before being up for the day.  During the day, he eats, is alert for about 30-45 minutes and then sleeps if you help him.  In order to sleep well, he needs to be swaddled just like big brother.

We're working on making that 5-hour stretch start when we're going to bed (instead of 6 pm which has happened a few time) and to make that "eat" in the middle of the night a bit quicker because being awake over a full hour is exhausting despite the fact that he's sleeping a pretty long stretch.

Eating/Breastfeeding:  The breastfeeding with Benjamin has been much easier than with Andrew because I knew what to expect; that said, it hasn't been "easy."  I was prepared for it not to work, but I has some intense hope that it would; I am not as devastated this time and just happy for the success that we are having right now.  That said, I still wish that I could be that mom that just whips out her boob in public to calm a screaming child (there is something unproductive of whipping out of the boob, the nipple shield, the SNS, the formula container, and tape to set it all up to nurse).

I still have a severe under supply and despite having and doing everything possible, it isn't increasing enough to feed him exclusive breast milk.  He is getting about 20-25% of his daily intake of breast milk and the rest formula via the SNS (supplementary nursing system, aka a little tube in his mouth that runs from a bottle).  I hate the pump with a passion which probably has to do with the fact that it confirms how little BM there is (like 0.5 oz from both boobs) but I still do it 3-4 times a day and he gets 2-3 oz of pumped BM in one of his SNS bottles of the day.

I didn't want to introduce the bottle because of the experience with Andrew so we waited until week four.  He still only has a bottle once, maybe twice a day.  So far it hasn't caused any problems with the BF latch or rejection as I feared.

Diapers: We ran out of newborn diapers so we've moved onto size 1 (which are HUGE on him, but not leaking).

Clothing: He is wearing newborn clothes and they fit perfectly with the exception of sleepers.  Most of the sleepers are already too short and pull at his neck. The 0-3 are huge, but he's in them.

How's Mommy? Great! A scheduled c-section was the way to go! The first week was brutal (but still better than Andrew's delivery) and I took Norco and Motrin pain meds around the clock.  I weaned off the Norco during week two and just used Motrin; by week three, I was off everything.  I love that I can go to the bathroom without pain, stand up, sit down, etc.  The only real limitation I seem to have is bending over which feels super tight on the incision. I have overdone it a few times, but nothing major.  I'm exhausted, but hey, that's normal.

Week 30, Baby #2

I LOOK: pregnant and round. With swollen feet and fingers this week, I'm getting looks from coworkers.

• Total Weight Gain: according to my scale +11.1 

I FEEL: swollen.  With official work starting last week, and 12 hour days starting, I've been on the go consistently.  We did a 8 hour day at Disneyland on Tuesday and I felt great with some sitting built in.  I'm nervous to start my first day of students and high energy tomorrow.  

• Baby Movements: kick counts still pretty pointless because he moves constantly (well, other than during our 3D/4D 
• Weird Pregnancy Symptom/Event: I'm just a tad cranky these days.  My filter is diminished. 

I CRAVE: food in general, bean burritos in specific.  I

I THINK: its been a crazy two weeks and tomorrow it will get crazier.  We've demoed a kitchen, gone to Disneyland, bought a car, prepped for school to start... 

I HOPE/I'm EXCITED: He has a name!  Baby Benjamin is officially named!  We're still working on his middle name, but he has a first name :)  He'll be a Ben.  It was also awesome to see him on the 3D/4D ultrasound on Sunday with the family.  Benjamin looks a lot like Andrew did at 3o weeks, same scowl and lips, but Benjamin has a different shaped nose and bigger cheeks.  

DOCs SAY: My appointment a week and a half ago was stressful.  I saw the OB instead of midwife and she rubbed me the wrong way from the beginning (remember the lack of filter?).   Anyway, I was measuring four weeks larger than the 29 weeks I was supposed to be, so we did an ultrasound last Wednesday (8/23) to check on his growth.  The tech isn't allowed to tell us anything, but we did get to see Benjamin moving all around.  I'm waiting for some response from the OB.

Baby Pfeffer #2, Week 28

The blogging world has pretty much moved on, but as I approach the end of this pregnancy, I find myself a bit sad that I don't have the same type of documentation as I did with Andrew.  I also have found myself looking back at what I wrote for each step of the way more and more.  So for my sake more than any other, I'm going to start blogging again.

So welcome to Growing a Family, Part II

Today I'm 28 weeks pregnant with our second bundle of joy.

28 weeks with Baby Pfeffer 2

I LOOK: pregnant and round.  

• Total Weight Gain: +10.8; this time around I have been super careful and consistent with my Weight Watchers tracking online so that this number stays reasonable.  My midwife's overall goal was ten pounds for the entire pregnancy; while I won't make that, I'm hoping that my consistency will pay off with less than a 20 pound overall gain.

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  28 weeks with Andrew

  Maternity Clothes: This time around, I pulled out all of the clothes I had from Andrew and haven't bought much.  I started this pregnancy at the same place I ended (size wise), so most of the pants were too small. I have purchased two pairs of shorts, a few pairs of stretchy shorts for under dresses, and a few tunic shirts.  Mostly I am wearing my LuLaRoe dresses and leggings and feeling great that no other part of my body is getting bigger.  It's been nice to spend most of the awkward second trimester on summer break.

I FEEL: Pregnant.  I can copy the words I wrote almost seven years ago almost exactly (I was thinking it was worse, but it isn't; perspective is great).  Week 28 with Andrew: "On a day-to-day basis when at work, I can forget that I'm pregnant; basically I'm just a bit sore all over, a bit more hungry, a bit less patient, a pee factory."  The only thing different (really just sooner this time), is acid reflex.  I despise it and have been counteracting it with Zantax and a bit of ice cream at night.

• Baby Movements: This baby is a mover; he doesn't have a pattern that I notice, but seems to move consistently all day long.  I'll be interested to see if my teaching lulls him to sleep like it did with Andrew :)
• Weird Pregnancy Symptom/Event: the discharge is horrid and I'm an emotional mess.  

I CRAVE: nothing much.  I've been trying to eat so well that I haven't allowed myself to give into much food.  So far for the entire pregnancy, I've craved bean burritos (but stuck with the 13 point Del Taco ones instead of the 23 point Baker's one like with Andrew) and chocolate milk.

I THINK: We're a bit nuts to start demo on our kitchen this week (Saturday to be exact), but I'm so excited to have this final piece of the house puzzle finished.  I didn't realize that we were finishing HUGE projects at this stage of the game with Andrew too.  With the kitchen demo comes Andrew moving into the room that was the office and getting his own big boy room.  The baby will be in the same nursery as Andrew, with the same decor.

I HOPE/I'm EXCITED: to be in third trimester already; this pregnancy has flown by so far!  I will be returning to work in the next two weeks for a new school year and I hope that my body can physically handle the transition (I am a bit concerned with my stamina).  I'm also excited to finalize his name (we're almost there)!

DOCs SAY: Next appointment is on Wednesday.  I love my midwife this time (Candace), her sass is awesome, and she's been super supportive of both the weight loss/gain, and with my fears of another delivery like Andrew's.  I'm going to ask for a growth ultrasound this week and I'm hoping she agrees.  

Andrew's sayings

Such a day of opposites:

This morning on the way to work: "mommy, I wish I was a girl so that I could be as pretty as you."

This afternoon: "I am a big, mean boy and I am going to ram you."

After nap: "all I want to do is have cuddles with you all day long because I love you so much."

Tonight at bedtime: "I don't want to say 'I love you' because I mean to you now. You won't lay with me to read more books."

Three Years Old!

Three, going on sixteen.  My tiny baby is three!  I re-read his two year old post where I hoped that he would still want to cuddle and hug--boy, does he like to cuddle!  He actually specifically says, "Mommy, I want to cuddle" and it melts my heart.  He is a bundle of never-ending energy ninety-nine percent of the time.  His sass is extreme and his bossiness rivals his momma's.

A flash to the past with a regular update!

Developmental Milestones for this Year:

• Physical/Gross Motor: Running, jump, skipping, climbing, he does it all. One of his newer favorite things is to sit "apple-sauce" style.  He gallops, balances, hops on one foot, catches large balls and kicks pretty much anything.  He is very into sports--football and basketball.  He goes about 50 mph at all times.
• Teeth: His two year old molars finally made a presence in July (27 months) and we're good with no more on the horizon.  He enjoys brushing his teeth and has learned to swoosh/spit so he gets "real" kid tooth paste.
• Cognitive/Language: I'm biased, but Andrew is pretty much the smartest kid on the planet.  He remembers everything and can tell where we are going/what will happen there simply by the surroundings, he knows which streets lead to mommy's work, his school, the mall, etc.  He is able to follow unrelated commands (when he feels like listening).  His favorite academic skill is matching, but also loves to point out anything that he notices.  He also loves singing the ABCs and puzzles are a great challenge (he does 25 piece puzzles by himself). 
• Vocabulary: Talk about a Language EXPLOSION.  Seriously, there isn't much this kid can't say that this point and when he's comfortable, he never stops talking and asking questions. Most of the time he talks in sentences and is very good at asking and answering questions.  He has learned to count and can get up to 20 without messing up. He sings many songs and acts them out after learning the motions from school.  He messes up his pronouns most of the time (them are sad, her is the sister, etc). He goes through phases when he throws in new, huge words.  A few of my favorites...
• "Mommy, please stop talking, I have a story to tell you."
• "Apparently, I'm hungry."
• "Jesus loves Mommy, Daddy, Andrew, Papa, Grandma, Auntie, Grandma Kay, Papa Kay, Reese, Michael, JJ, my teachers, Mickey Mouse [insert whoever he can thinking of for 20 minutes]."
• "I love you to pluto and back."
• "Them are my best buddies."
• Potty training: We are completely diaper free during the day and have kept the night-time pull-up.  He wakes up dry once a week and mommy isn't willing to do it all the way.
• Psychosocial: He continues to be a social butterfly struggling with aggression.  He LOVES school and his teachers report that he is a huge helper.  Playing with people is the only way he wants to play; he struggles with independent play (I guess being with 22 two-years olds all day would do that to do).  He understands sharing and will almost always share upon request.  At home, he enjoys making mommy and daddy happy.  He actually acts shy when he is in a large group of people he doesn't know for about a minute (tries to fool you!), but doesn't seem to have many fears.
• Personality: Andrew, like most three year olds, likes his stuff, his way.  If he doesn't get his way, he makes it know with his words and his actions (loud and bossy actions).  He can be very silly, making silly faces and sounds, even calling himself silly.  He's taken to saying, "sad David" when something doesn't go his way and we had to teach him to say "shoot" after he said "damnit" on Valentine's Day.  When he doesn't know something, or is confused, he shrugs his shoulders and turns his hands up.

Physical Growth:  At his last appointment for his asthma, he was 36 inches tall and 31 pounds.  He has had a relatively healthy year now that we have the medication for his asthma figured out.
Sleeping: Andrew has decided that sleep is for the birds!  We are battling bedtime, nap time, and morning early waking.  He'd rather be with us.  He usually goes to bed about 8 and wakes up anytime between 3:3-7 to climb into our bed to sleep for a few more hours.
Eating: He eats more than mommy for almost everything.  He will finally try "regular" chicken that isn't ground and in the shape of a nugget.
Diapers: Only for nighttime (size 4)
Clothing: We have worn 2T for the past six months or so and will probably be in them throughout this summer.  His foot has grown two sizes this year to an 8.
Favorite Toys: He jumps from thing to thing, but his go-tos are his Cars toys (Mator, Lightening, Airplane), camera, books, and puzzles.  He cooks a mean wooden pizza, kicks a great field goal, colors like a maniac, and reads and reads.

Welcome to 2014

We rang in the new year with the Websters in a low key evening filled with yummy food, fun games, and laughter.

Andrew made it all the way to midnight (the only kiddo that did) and we kisses with the dropping ball.

January 1st we went to the movies and saw Frozen. Andrew really enjoyed it and talked about the two girls, boy, and reindeer quite a bit. 

Daddy didn't feel good after nap, so we got back into our PJs where we have been for the last day and a half. Daddy's 'sick' turned in the stomach flu (welcome 2014).

Andrew and I have played many games, had races with Mater and McQueen, built a castle, and ate pink ice cream.

We also spent a bit of time in the bathroom. Andrew does not want me in the room at all--no idea how that is going to work.

Tomorrow, Andrew and Daddy (hopefully he is well) go back to work. Mommy has a list a mile long and is praying that the stomach flu doesn't get her.

Making Cookies

Blogging has gone to the wind in the new busyness in our life. Thankfully for the handy iPhone and its fantastic camera, documenting life has still happened. 

Yesterday, despite feeling sick, we made cookies. During Andrew's nap, Dave and I cranked out butter cookies and sugar cookie dough. As he woke up, we made the gingerbread dough to sit in the frig. Daddy showed Andrew how to lick the beaters.

Andrew seemed to know exactly how to make sugar cookies (even if he didn't want to wait for mommy to finish rolling out the dough).

His favorite part was decorating with sprinkles. He loved paying attention to 'details' for the most part.

Mommy stopped paying attention for just a second and the tree above resulted from that. Andrew also really wanted to add eyes to many cookies with the red hots.

Happy cookie eating!

4th of July From iPhone

I have so many cute photos from 4th of July that I have to share. I've banned myself from the laptop tonight (leads to working, staying up too late, and sleeping poorly because of stess) so you get an iPhone post again!

We started the morning with grandma and papa coming over and bring presents (Donald Duck and stickers for Andrew and trellis for mama).

We were pretty much immediately in the pool. Andrew was a happy camper with his toys on the step.

Dad assembled the trellis while Dave worked on the pool fence (and they helped each other too).

After lunch at Islands, we all went swimming together while Andrew slept.

After nap, we got in again (see the trend?!?).

And he got in again...

After showers, we headed over to the Key' for their annual 4th of July party.

We missed the Websters!

Andrew enjoyed playing the the kids and being a monkey on their beds.  Elijah and Andrew got each other pretty wet (but oh so cute).

Rachel made yummy home made Popsicles that the kids and adults enjoyed.

We played with sparklers (Andrew wasn't too into it this year).

At 9, we enjoyed the Mt. Rubidoux fireworks. The show actually went off without a wind delay, fire, or any other issue. Andrew was exhausted and sat curled up on my lap the whole time. He enjoyed them in a very low key fashion. There were small 'boom' and 'oohs' in almost a whisper so I knew he was watching :)

School is out for the summer!!

I already feel more relaxed and calm!  Although I'll technically be working all next week, the kids are gone and that makes everything so much easier.  I can actually get my stuff done for 8 hours instead of juggling teaching and the eight hours of administrative work that needs to be done.

I know that I've totally neglected the blog and if you're not a Instagram or Facebook friend you've seen nothing for months.  I promise to get you up to date with all the pictures I've been taking!

Life as we know it via Mommy's new iPhone.

Mommy has had her phone for 25 days and has already taken over 500 photos. Here are some of my favorites.

Andrew now wakes up instantly hungry.

Pretend City with grandma

Lego train, his favorite things together

Lincoln logs with daddy

Painting for Mother's Day 

Swimming with papa on Mother's Day 

Lunch with auntie

Nightly snuggles as a family

Potty training is working

Sea World

As part of Andrew's on-going birthday celebration and thanks to Sea World's generous teacher's thank you (a free year FunPass!) we visited Shamu and his friends.

 We planned our visit pretty well around the times of the shows. 

We got there about 11 am and went straight to the Shamu show; even before the show started, he could see the killer whales in the warm-up with there trainers and the pointing started.  Like when we visited the LA Zoo and Safari Park last summer, he was immediately involved with the action.

 After the show, we watched the whales play with their trainers in the back part of the show. 

Andrew did not want to leave the whales!

 After finally getting the stroller back, we headed to the dolphin show.

 At this point the sun came out and it was HOT and Andrew was hungry, but he was still pretty into it.  He enjoyed the flying/diving people too.

 We ate lunch and attempted to get Andrew to nap by walking around for a full hour (no luck).  We watched the otters, saw a few other animals and Travis joined us.

 It was a bit too cold to play in the water in Elmo's area, but we did have fun meeting Elmo.

 Andrew didn't like the pink guy.

 Dave, Travis, and Andrew decided to climb up the rope course. Andrew loved it, but it was hard work for the boys!

 Our last show of the day was the Pet Rescue show, which was mommy and Andrew's favorite.  He loved pointing out the doggies, kitties, pig, ducks, and oohh over their silly tricks.

The last thing Andrew saw before crashing was the giant sharks in the tunnel.

 

Andrew finally fell asleep on Dave's shoulder (at 5 pm) and we visited the penguins and baby belugas when he slept in the stroller. 

 

Overall it was a fantastic day and I can't wait to go back (which we get to as many days as we want until 2014!)